DR MARGARET NAKHID-CHATOOR
FROM THE reports circulating on social media about the pandemic, both negative and positive, it seems that we are in for a rollercoaster ride in 2022. The speed of the virus and its many variants have increased and as people struggle to manage private and domestic issues, job losses and financial expenses, mental illness and its deleterious effects have not lessened.
How can we put a plan in place for the new year to help with the unforeseen stresses that are inevitable? Choose your crew! Choose those who continue to affirm you, those who have been doers and not talkers and helped you and your family in the last year, and those people who have added value to your life.
In 2022, be selective about those who enter your mental space. These include family members who are always bringing you down or who have been verbally and physically abusive to you. There may be people on the job, especially co-workers and leaders who intimidate or harass you with slight regard for your feelings and opinions - put on your blinders and zone them out!
Remember that not everyone will be respectful or show care towards you as oftentimes they are insecure and bitter about their own life experiences. Do what you have to do, conscientiously and ethically - but zone them out! Protect your peace of mind.
In the new year, your inner peace should be your first priority to mental health and well-being. This involves self-care, self-love and gratitude for what you have and all that you are becoming.
While it may be difficult to put into practice at first, being 'at peace' with yourself will lessen your feelings of being stressed out or anxious. This does not mean there will be no stressors or hard work or difficult circumstances - these adverse situations may always be there. What it suggests is that you remain calm in the storms of your life -that you protect your inner safe spaces which only you have control over and which no one else knows about.
Avoid people and places that drain your energy. They include the conversations that spiral into negativity and the ongoing arguments with others who make no attempt to change themselves - but are always keen on changing you. Leave these negative spaces; hang up the phone; get to know the triggers that make you spiral into a web of anxiety and frustration and avoid them - don't allow negativity into your mental and emotional world for 2022.
Let go of things and people that you cannot control - remember that the only person you can change is
you. In the same way, you should not attempt to control or try to change others. If you continue to allow people to cross boundaries by saying and doing things to you that are inappropriate or which leave you sad and agitated, it is time to put up some boundaries. What are you waiting for? The year 2022 is about your self-care and safe guarding of your mental wellness.
And what about those self-destructive thoughts that you continue to have. Do you overthink every situation and over-analyse what you hear
