Trigger warning: This article deals with issues surrounding suicide and suicide prevention which could trigger negative thoughts or memories for some readers. If you or someone you know needs help, contact Lifeline (24hr hotline) 800-5588, 231-2824, 220-3636.
We like to think we know everything about the ones we love, but the truth is even those closest to us may be harbouring darkness, afraid or unable to verbalise their feelings. Our love for them can sometimes aid in detecting their darkness; others hide their pain well.
In September, mental health professionals recognise Suicide Prevention Awareness Month.
While suicide is often the result of an untreated mental illness, this is not always the case. Suicidal thoughts can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or socio-economic background.
Suicidal ideation (thinking about suicide or wanting to take your own life) may not always result in the act itself, but, regardless of the circumstances, it is a clear indication that intervention is needed.
“The most important thing you can do as a friend is to just be there,” said counselling psychologist Shaynelle George of A and S Counselling Solutions. “Be there in the capacity the person is allowing you.”
George said if someone suspects a loved one of being suicidal, then a little more effort is required, but just being in that person’s space can be helpful.
“Be there as best as you can, but also respect and understand that person’s boundaries. Sometimes when people are overwhelmed, the people in their space can make it worse," she said.
Dealing with life stressors
George said depression in adults can stem from many issues, but one of the biggest stressors, especially during the past two years of the global covid19 pandemic, is financial issues.
“A lot of people go into that depressive mode when the bills are piling up, especially when children are involved.”
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She said the loss of a job and income can easily lead to depression.
Generally, outside of the pandemic, the inability to manage all of the things going on in one’s life can trigger depression and suicidal ideation.
“I have had clients who expressed suicidal thoughts because they are just not satisfied with where they are in life.
"Sometimes we put pressure on ourselves because we feel by a certain age we should have certain things. It can be frustrating for some people, especially people in their 20s and 30s. We were, unfortunately, sold a dream that when we became adults we would have it all together."
She said this is especially problematic for people who have degrees but are unable to find work and feel they are not where they are expected to be at this stage in their lives.
“Sometimes you don’t have the words to just say, ‘I am disappointed with where I am right now.’ People just express that with depressive modes (and) sometimes s
